Tuesday, September 30, 2008

Mara,

Today you join me at 23. I wonder how you're celebrating your birthday... Maybe you've chosen to spend it like any other day... Maybe you're going out with your friends there... Perhaps a date with someone new? I just hope you're NOT choosing to spend it pining over a particular someone.

Now I don't mean to lecture you on your birthday of all days but why not? I was here first. Bleh!

Here are little nuggets of wisdom from me to you.

  1. I cannot believe I'm saying this but for now, enough of the hopeless romantic churvas. I mean, we all want true love. We all want a happy ending. But we can't very well expect to have all that in just a few tries. Weren't you the one who said that expectations is what kills a relationships? And let me just add that assumption is the mother of all fuck-ups. So, do me a favor and just loosen up a little. By that I mean, stop thinking about being alone or ending up alone. Stop worrying about the one. Stop looking for the one. Take it from me, love will come in its time. And the one, whoever he is, will find you. In the meantime, be open to possibilities.
  2. If you do feel the need to get all nostalgic, focus on what you did wrong and learn from them.
  3. You are an amazing woman. Don't settle for anything less than you deserve.

There is an acceptable length of time to grieve the loss of a relationship and there is a point at which it's simply a waste of time. I am telling you these things because I have been wanting to shake you to your senses. They say with age comes wisdom. Let us try to be able to stand and say we learned our lessons well.

All I'm saying is, stop grieving and start living. Because for someone whose blog is entitled an overdose of life, you sure haven't been doing much of living.

So live... Love... Learn... You're not getting any younger. HAHA

Love you mam...

Happy Birthday!



live and learn - the cardigans

5 comments:

Easter Bunny said...

very well said... happy birthday mara!

Krawi said...

"...love will come in its time. And the one, whoever he is, will find you."

hear, hear!

Aiken said...

perrrrrrrrrrrrrrfecttttttttttt!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Verna T.S. said...

i so love angel on this.. haha.

and i miss you mam!

angel said...

Thank you all! i've been wanting to get that out of my chest.hehehehe